Part of life is accepting that not all relationships and friendships are meant to last forever. People mature at different rates, change hobbies, meet more compatible friends, move, grow, develop a backbone, regress, progress, and fall out of love or fall in love with other people.
“Laughter is by no means a bad beginning for a friendship, and it is by far the best ending for one.” Oscar Wilde
Sometimes it is better to move on. A study by researchers at the University of Missouri found that intermittent relationships can have toxic psychological consequences.
The following tips are for when you or the other person is having a hard time moving on, so that you can do so as peacefully as possible.
1) Forgive yourself and him or her if you feel resentment or guilt. It’s normal for it to take a while to really feel forgiveness, but be persistent. You don’t always need to tell the other person, as forgiveness is for you. Do you feel guilty for ending it? Perhaps it is best for that person to be free to meet more compatible people.
2) Ponder the lesson you should learn from the situation and also accept it, which can help you overcome pain, regret, and other difficult emotions.
3) Replace any pain, regret, or other negative emotions with gratitude for the experience and future possibilities.
4) Try to perceive the situation in a less emotional and more practical and logical way. For example, is it someone you never got to know very well, or even a stranger? If so, your mind might be thinking of him or her as a target to fill a love or sexual void. Tell yourself that this person may not even be a match or may have led to some of the good things your mind expected. It is time to make room for the future and for someone new.
5) Sometimes it is necessary to spiritually block someone, especially when you feel the need to protect yourself against someone who is not being rational or respectful. http://www.lovelifeandspirituality.com/how-to-spiritually-block-someone/
6) Communicate psychically. Did it end before you had a chance to speak? Follow these steps to express unspoken words from Stephen’s book Your Love Life and Reincarnation:
Express your true feelings to someone with whom you didn’t have the opportunity or the courage. Use this meditation just before you sleep at night.
1. Surround yourself with white light.
2. Thank God, your guides and angels of Light, and / or your Higher Self for their guidance and protection.
3. Visualize the person to whom you want to convey a message as clearly as possible. Imagine a ray of pink light connecting your heart chakra to theirs.
4. Tell this person compassionately what you want to say (“I feel the need to tell you …”). This is a spiritual communication, not a physical one, so the other person can be anywhere and still receive your message on a subconscious level.
5. Complete the message with the following: “I surround you with white light and I thank you (or I forgive you).” If forgiveness is appropriate, it is important to feel the forgiveness and release the person. Holding onto resentment will hurt you. Let them go in peace.
6. Important: After meditation, disconnect completely from this person. Visualize the pink ray of light dissolving and fully return to your own energy. Visualize a bright white light of protection surrounding and cleansing you and this other person and separating your energy from theirs.
7) Ask for help, and be specific, to whoever you pray to. Your intention is more important than the wording of your application, but be sure to keep your intention aligned with the highest good for everyone involved. Here is an example that you can use as is or customize: “God, guides and angels of Light and / or Higher Self, allow me to gain the awareness I need through this meditation and through my dreams and my daily perception to move. at peace from this situation. Please help me to forgive and release myself and ____________ (and everyone else). Please make your guidance clear and concise so that I can easily understand, interpret and receive it. Thank you and am grateful for your assistance. “
“New clothes are a great way to cope after a breakup. A good mix CD also helps you get through it and … you know, 72 hours of ice cream.” Jennifer wants Hewitt