How do you manage after the adventure? Sometimes it’s so hard to get through the day knowing you’ve been cheated on. How do you move forward so that you can really get busy rebuilding your marriage after infidelity has shaken your marriage to its foundations?
You deal with a cheating spouse just like you deal with anything bad that happens in your life. You force yourself to keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward until you realize you no longer need to force yourself and are able to walk on your own. That’s the long road to healing at least, but it can be effective.
Stop worrying about what could have been
There are other things you can do to help you cope after you’ve been cheated on. The first thing you need to do is stop blaming yourself. Could things have been different? Perhaps the problem is that there is no way to know for sure. Could you have stopped your spouse from cheating on you? It’s another maybe.
The bottom line is that hindsight almost always reveals things that could have been, would have been, or could have been done differently down the road. You’ll never know and kicking yourself while you’re down is just not helpful to your cause. So stop!
What you need to do now is stop worrying about changing your past and focus on the things you can do to change the future. You can build the future you want. What you need to do now is sit down and figure out how to make it happen.
change your stars
You don’t need to go to a fortune teller and read star charts to determine your future. Now is the time for you to make decisions, make plans and take action.
By focusing on the future and on rebuilding your marriage (I mean going back and starting over and rebuilding from scratch), you can leave old baggage behind, create new happy memories, and right any mistakes that have been made. the first time.
The future is always in motion. Your actions now define what your future will be. If you have decided that rebuilding your marriage is the way to go, then the act of rebuilding your marriage will be part of your coping process to help you cope with the affair. By working together, you both have the power to change your future and create your own happy ending.