Feedback loops are an incredibly powerful, incredibly complex, and often completely ignored facet that makes up the bulk of just about everything, from solar systems to economic systems. And of course, seduction.
First of all, what is a feedback loop? You are standing next to an amplifier that your guitar is plugged into. Also, a microphone is connected to another amplifier. You play your guitar, the sound comes out of your amp, and then into the mic, and then out of the mic amp, and then back into the mic, and then everyone’s eardrums explode.
Another common example is in economics. Ever wonder why you can get ten economists in a room and get eleven different opinions? It’s never the same. The economic decisions you make with twenty dollars in your pocket are different from those you make with ten dollars in your pocket.
Once you put your money into the “system”, both you and the system change. That is why no one will be able to predict the stock market, or anything related to the economy.
You want to have girls though, right? Well, don’t talk about economics!
How do feedback loops apply here? Let’s say you are very confident and you meet a very pretty girl who is not so confident. Say something confidently to her, and then she will feed off your confidence, becoming more confident, which of course will give you more confidence, and this “positive” feedback loop will have a happy ending.
On the other hand, if you only have medium confidence and meet the same girl, you can get completely different results. She may misinterpret your middling confidence as hitting on her (on a subconscious level), causing her to respond with a little less confidence, giving you less, until you’re both staring off into the distance wondering what the heck just happened.
As a man (whether you like it or not, dude!), your job is to “steer” the feedback loop.
Dive in there with your confidence, “feel” your confidence level, and then slowly and steadily, through your conversation, bring it to the level where you can generate that self-sustaining positive feedback loop.
Something like the critical mass of a nuclear explosion.
When this happens, it’s fantastic. Everything just “clicks”. They’re really vibing with each other, and all the nervousness melts away (for both of them) and they can really dig in and enjoy each other.
Now, most guys think this only “happens” once in a while. But when you approach each and every conversation with creating this positive feedback loop in mind, it will start to happen more and more often.
One thing that can really speed up this process is if you have rock-solid confidence on a deep, unconscious level, so you can comfortably bring just about any girl into that wonderful state of self-fulfilling bliss.