Looking for advice on how to survive a breakup? I do not blame you. Getting over a breakup is not easy. The severity of the breakup depends on a variety of factors: how close you were to your ex, how long they were together, and how committed and involved you were in the relationship. Although the difficulty of getting over a breakup differs for each person, most people tend to have a hard time dealing with a breakup.

1. Get closure

One of the main reasons so many people have a hard time dealing with a breakup is because it is so difficult to get the closure you need. Your ex owes you the real reasons for breaking up with you. If you push them hard enough, they tend to give way over time. If they just don’t like you anymore, that’s reason enough for you to turn away from them. Take it as well as you can and move on. Do you want to be with someone who does not want to be with you? Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t value you for the amazing person you are? You deserve better, so go ahead and keep looking for the right one!

2. Cut the contact

This is one of the most crucial parts of a breakup, but one of the most difficult. It is common to chase a recent ex with phone calls, text messages, emails, Facebook messages, etc. Honestly, it will drive you crazy. You will rarely hear what you want to hear. It will also make you look desperate and needy, which will put them off completely. At this point, your ex will know that you want him back, giving him full control. Regain some control by simply cutting off communication for good.

If you want to know how to handle a breakup the right way, you should avoid face-to-face contact with your ex at all costs. That means avoiding your usual hangouts and friends. This may be difficult if you see your ex at work or you don’t live in a city big enough to avoid them altogether all the time. If that’s the case, don’t do much more than say hello if you see them. Even if you have friends who are friends with your ex, avoid those friends for a while. Make it clear to them that it is nothing personal to them and that you only need time away from possible contact with your ex to be able to move on with your life.

3. Focus on yourself

This is another very important step. You should stop thinking about your ex all the time and focus on yourself. Life is beautiful, with or without your ex. Focus on your hobbies, friendships, work, and who knows … maybe eventually you will meet someone special who is right for you. The latter should not be rushed, of course, just get back into your life and enjoy it to the fullest. Take care of yourself and let yourself feel happy.

If you really focus on the things I mentioned in this article, I promise you will. Remember that you can be happy and enjoy life without your ex. If it was okay before that couple came into your life, then it will be okay once again. It may not be easy at first, but you will get over it and get better. I promised.