Polarity, Tension and Attraction 101

Men often wonder, “WHY are women sometimes attracted to us and sometimes NOT?” A simple breakdown, several generalizations will be made for simplicity: ATTRACTION boils down to Polarity and Compatibility. P&C are the two raw ingredients.

Polarity, in a nutshell: When a man feels very masculine (quiet, strong, powerful, determined, assertive, etc.) and a woman feels feminine (playful, giggly, bubbly, sensitive, open, etc.) there is an arc. of energy that forms between man and woman. “Attraction” or “polarity”, whatever you want to call it. (This energy is very similar to magnets). Keep in mind that this will happen to any man and woman, even if they are complete strangers.

That’s why women can walk through a construction site, and even though they wouldn’t like a relationship with construction workers, they can’t help but feel SOMETHING. If the workers are being very masculine while the girls walking by are feeling very feminine, the attraction will be there, even if they have no real desire to act on it. That is why it has been said that “attraction is not a choice.” When a man is being very masculine with a very feminine woman, whether she likes it or not, she will feel a certain polarity with him. How women decide to act or not act comes down to compatibility, or what are known as “complementary opposites,” based on the Yin and Yang archetypes.

The woman going through that construction site may be a lawyer, and as such, may not have any desire to act on her attraction, because despite the physical attraction (polarity), she knows that they will not be compatible or get along. . She is interested in what lawyers want: fame, money, power, prestige, etc. whereas he may be interested in simpler things like getting high and playing video games every weekend. So they may feel a certain polarity for each other, but realistically, things probably wouldn’t work out between them. He is on a different ‘vibrational frequency’ than she is, and they both know it. He doesn’t have the sophistication or education to be anything more than a comforter to her.

Now let’s say you drive past the construction site and pass a reiki center. Another very masculine guy is outside, doing reiki energy sessions with someone. He is in a very masculine state, he is in charge, taking the lead, and perhaps holding someone in his hands and shooting reiki energy into them. The lawyer walks by, and they both feel the polarity, the physical attraction, but still have no real desire to act because the reiki healer is far ahead of the lawyers’ consciousness. She is interested in power, while he is interested in higher things like energy, heart, meditation, etc.

(Of course I am generalizing, I am certainly NOT saying that ‘all lawyers are power hungry’ and ‘all construction workers are uneducated’, nor am I saying that ‘all women are feminine’).

Again, they may feel the polarity, but they probably won’t act on it because they live on a different “vibration.”

frequency’, they live in different worlds, different levels of consciousness, different beliefs and values.

Lesson: Attraction Comes Down to Consciousness Polarity and Compatibility

many blessings,

Stephane Hemon