The other night, I saw a video of a brown bear that kept walking in circles. However, this bear was not in a cage, it was outside and therefore free to go anywhere it wanted.

Apparently, it wasn’t that long ago that this bear was in a cage and didn’t have the freedom that it does now. This bear’s environment had changed then, but its behavior had remained the same.

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It would be easy to reflect on this and think “wow, this bear isn’t very smart” and “if he was smarter, he could see what’s going on and change his behavior.” Now, as easy as it is to do this, what is not so easy is for someone to recognize when they are doing the same thing, or to change their behavior when they are aware of it.

This is not to say that they will have lived in a small area and are now free to go wherever they want. No, it’s probably a lot more subtle than that and that’s why it can go unnoticed, so to speak.

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Also, if they have behaved in a certain way for more or less their entire life, they may not even be aware of this behavior. This will mean that it will be normal; thus preventing them from questioning what is happening.

What can also play a role in this is that they can live in a society where what they are doing is commonplace. Therefore, if you are not aware of what is happening, it is unlikely that someone around you will say something.

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To make matters worse, it could be someone extremely “smart” and with many qualifications. This can make it difficult to accept that they would behave in a way that is not serving them.

At this point, it would be easy to ask yourself: how could someone like that behave this way if they really are smart? The question that could also arise at this point is: is there more than one type of intelligence?

The same pattern

When it comes to what someone can do that doesn’t work for them, there are numerous examples. If they could take a step back and reflect on their life, they could see that they are continually drawn to people who are not available and even when they know someone is not available they keep coming back to them.

And / or they may have people in their life who don’t treat them very well. Some of these people may have been in your life for years, and you may find more of them who are like that as time goes on.

Drawing the line

So whether someone can relate to one of the above behaviors, or if it is another behavior or behaviors that are undermining them, they may be in a position where they are ready to change their life. If you see yourself as ‘smart’ you may wonder how they could have been so ‘stupid’ for so long.

However, if they respond in this way, it will be important for them to note that this does not mean that they are stupid or that there is something inherently wrong with them. What it will simply show is that you have a mind that is very good at tricking you and preventing you from developing self-awareness in the process.

Proper education

Also, there is a strong possibility that they did not learn how their mind works while they were in the educational system. When it comes to what they learned, this would likely have been what would benefit the “system”, not what would allow them to gain a deeper understanding of themselves, develop self-awareness, and heal their inner wounds.

Surely, if education taught these three things, it would not be long until there was a massive change on this earth. With these understandings, more and more people could be the change they want to see in the world rather than trying to change the world, while finding themselves in complete disaster.

Deepening

However, for one to understand why they would behave in ways that do not serve them, it will be necessary for them to understand that they have both a conscious and an unconscious mind. When it comes to the latter, this part of them is not only hidden, but it is also much more powerful than the former and may want different things.

With this in mind, the way they can understand why they would behave destructively is to connect with this part of them and find out what it is trying to achieve. This part of them will reveal what is happening, but that doesn’t mean that none of it makes sense to your conscious mind, at least at first.

Back in time

If one can see that they have the inclination to be attracted to people who are not available and, once they know that someone is like that, return to them, it is likely that it illustrates that part of them is trying to solve a situation from their perspective. last. During their youth, they may have had at least one caregiver who was not available.

It has been many years since that time, but your emotional / child self has no sense of time and will continue to try to receive what it did not receive so many years ago. This part of them will not give up until they receive what was lost.

A compulsion

This part is not concerned with how much pain this behavior is causing them; he is possessed by his need to finally receive what was lost. All the suffering that this behavior has caused will show you that it is so.

Another part of this is that although this part of them will want to receive what was lost, they will also fear receiving it. This boils down to the fact that, as painful as his early years were, he would have associated himself with what is familiar, and what is familiar is classified as what is safe for his ego-mind.

A new beginning

So, as crazy as it is to endlessly behave in a way that doesn’t do any good, what makes it even more crazy is that this part also fears the same thing that it is trying to receive. That said, it is through this process of repeating the past that one may realize what it is that is necessary to heal in order to be more integrated and whole.

The problem is, of course, that if you are not aware of what is happening, you will not be able to make use of the information that your external world provides. Instead of being able to see what’s going on and figure out what’s popping up, they will continually do something that will vastly undermine them at best and slowly or instantly kill them at worst.

Awareness

On one level, there is the pattern of behavior that is not serving you and, on a deeper level, there is the emotional pain that is holding this pattern in place. In order for your life to change, you will need to get in touch with this pain and get over it.

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By working through this pain, your need to behave in a certain way will gradually decrease. This is a process that can take place with the help of a therapist or healer.