We all want to have fun with the people we meet, and the best way to achieve that is by adhering to good old-fashioned manners. Here are some swinger etiquette rules to live by to ensure you have the best time possible:

The golden rule: “NO means NO”. Anyone can say “NO” for any reason at any time, even if you’re in the middle of a swinger and have changed your mind and want to stop it right then and there. If you find yourself in a situation that makes you uncomfortable, just say “NO.” Don’t jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle, or that of your partner, by doing something against your will, just because you’re afraid to say no. The friendliest way to say it is, “Oh no thanks, but thanks for asking.” Be honest at the beginning and you will avoid misunderstandings. Do not forget that people’s attitudes change, and perhaps in the future you will find yourself with a different opinion again.

Always treat each other with respect. After all, this is a party! Also, you don’t want to be rude or judgmental, because you wouldn’t want it to happen to you. If a single gentleman talks to you and you’re interested in swinging with couples only, that doesn’t mean you can’t be nice to him. He is a person just like you, so politely let him know.

DO NOT take personal offense if you get rejected (and it happens to everyone, even women). Rejection is a very personal thing, and it’s almost as hard to reject as it is to be rejected. Being honest with each other is crucial, and who knows? You could end up with a great friendship if you handle the situation well.

Face jealousy head on! It is a normal reaction. Remember that this is strictly a physical and recreational pleasure, not an emotional one. Find out what triggers jealousy in your relationship and work it out together. It may mean modifying your activities, but swinging isn’t worth jeopardizing your relationship.

Always let your partner know that they are number one. Come together and depart together. Take time to pet her mate and check in with her often to help her feel safe.

Be kind, considerate, and sensitive. Use your common sense and good judgment when involved in a swing situation. All swingers, including single men and women, have feelings!

Honor any and all of the above understandings and rules you have made with each other, and be sure to COMMUNICATE openly and honestly so there are no misunderstandings about your rules.

Respect the guidelines establish as a couple and communicate them to potential partners. Open and honest communication is imperative to building relationships. Don’t forget to respect the guidelines of others and don’t try to convince them to change the rules because you don’t agree with them!

Pay attention to body language. There is more to interaction than words. Consider the body language of the person you’re talking to, and it might tell you more than just the conversation you’re having! Be sensitive to the person and you will know what makes them feel uncomfortable or happy and excited.

Require absolute discretion and be worthy of the same. Discretion is paramount in this lifestyle and privacy is a must! Never, ever discuss details inappropriately. Everything you do, everything you see, MUST remain private. There is a saying: “Everything you see here and everything you hear here should stay here when you leave.”