SHAKE [aj-I-tuh] not. That feeling of agitation or anxiety can hit the pit of your stomach as fast as food poisoning. And that’s what it is.
An infection or virus that is harmful to health. It will stay for days, months, or even years. This feeling came to me after the loss of an emotional or attachment state.
The law of human attraction works in two ways:
1. There are traits within you that are like magnets, drawing others towards you or pushing them away.
2. People’s ideas try to deeply influence and introduce you to new habits, new behaviors, and new characteristics.
When your heart opens, you can sometimes take control of your life. That is, it allows you to think for yourself instead of what the mind knows to be fact and reality.
My mom always used to say, “think with your mind and not with your heart.” I understand now. A great thinker once wrote: “The heart above all is very deceitful.” How true are these words?
When i recognized the anxiety
Years ago, my life underwent tumultuous changes with people. I couldn’t understand how to handle a loss. When a friendship ended due to acts of betrayal, jealousy, death, or deception, I cried.
Can you relate to hanging out, laughing a lot, sharing secrets, shopping, etc. with a friend? But, I found out sometime along the way that there was a breach of trust.
I remember experiencing stomach aches.
Deep, cutting sensations filled my stomach for days. These feelings took away my appetite. They consumed my mind, thoughts and my whole being. (I know this was not healthy).
I did not know or understand HOW to deal with such losses. The fault in my life was having a true friend. It became difficult to trust people due to my experience of losses every two to three years.
Really. I remember seasons when I met new people, interacted, developed bonds, and two or three years later, what was once null and void.
One thing about life is that it sets patterns. People show you patterns. They are consistent or inconsistently consistent.
And when you look for real, true and genuine people along with their experience, you start to notice the patterns.
You become sensitive. Your senses are alert. Different behaviors trigger triggers. It feels like your ability to discern is sharpened and more alive. Wakes you up.
Some can advance quickly.
Others are NEVER allowed to open up.
Some internalize and repress it.
Others act like it never happened.
We process pain and anxiety differently and over various periods of time. Here are the 10 ways to manage anxiety:
Prayer consistent with Scripture
Tears: cry when and when necessary. Never let anyone tell you not to. Crying is a cleansing process.
Consistent conversations with ONE person, NOT MANY. (Be sure to tell both sides. Healing can’t start with just discussing offenses. You MUST evaluate yourself and your actions as well).
Work longer hours: this Band-Aid takes my head off me.
Go out to fun places -Laughter is medicine for the soul.
Recognizing some of YOUR flaws. (It is NOT 100% the other person).
Get Closure with the guidance of someone trained. (A delicate request. Sometimes closing comes with accepting reality, moving on, and letting go of time.)
Process the facts so as not to think too much about the experiences.
Read and research information about the experience.
If time and space allow, have a final conversation with the other, where we converse and find common ground to close in a non-defensive way. (If you are ready to speak peacefully and the other is not, then it is advisable not to move on.)
The aftermath of anxiety helps amplify your writing
The sequelae of anxiety can take two turns: negative or positive events. I find that after processing anxiety there is more to say, write and help others.
You may be thinking, “Jacqueline, how can I write with more power and give advice to others?” Well, just because a “triggered moment” has come, it doesn’t mean that you have nothing to say and your words or your courage are no longer of incredible value.
Rather, you now have a wealth of detail to write down and add to your story, poems, content, characters, or plot.
Writers write and draw primarily from experiences and imagination. Can you describe your encounters with anxiety in writing?
Can you write a detailed explanation of your anxiety triggers? Is it possible that a new character or story can be formed from one of your experiences?
There is a lot of power when we write from real and authentic places in our lives. As our characters develop day by day and take new forms, so do our stories and our writing.
All stories, whether fiction or non-fiction, reveal one or two types of conflicts in life: external or internal conflicts.
Writing the conflict helps develop the plot. Also, immediately after the scenario, we should see the conflict before the rising action and climax.
Our awakening lives unfold in the same way. There is a scenario (where and when things start), the conflict (the anxiety trigger), the upward action (events of the triggers), the climax (the anxiety attack), etc.
The sequels give us more for reflection and writing. We can help others to overcome and overcome their conflicts because we are the first to participate.
In general, I now handle my anxieties maturely. Not that he was immature before, he just had no idea how to process and accept a loss.
This experience is the case for most. Most people just don’t know. With this in mind, allow others to connect with your writing and stories through transparency and authenticity.
Then start looking for amazing results through the words and testimonials of your followers and readers.
I believe in writing from the heart. I intend to touch others with my writing. My writings are amplified due to my experiences and encounters with different situations and people.
The intense levels of my anxiety unleash incredible returns through open doors and prominent people receiving my gifts. I know this sounds like an oxymoron. But generally this is how it works.