I hear people say that they prefer to wait until they meet someone, which is understandable. But one of the secrets to success is to believe it before you see it. Acting as if it were true is one of the secrets of business success, and it is the same in love, believe it before you see it.

So a powerful step in changing your status quo is to start with a change in your environment. That means things, clothes, dress standards, decorations, art, underwear, sports equipment, home, jewelry, friends, coffee shops, transportation. And more…

You can start today… clean the underwear, change the room, fix the office, organize the bathroom, improve the space.

Get rid of everything you associate with a previous partner, jewelry, gifts and photos. Those former companions are in your heart, you don’t need their energy softening your open window. Everything has energy so give it, sell it or throw it away. Make room for the new, even leave a blank picture frame or insert a picture of a happy couple you imagine you will become. It is important.

Environmental awareness starts in your life, not with the whales, the forests and the frogs. That’s all good, but you need to get your house in order. Put on some sandals, before going out to dress the world of leather. That is a great message from nature. Be the change you want the world to experience.

Go one step further and change your approach to how you look. Not randomly or with a clothing consultant. Shift your focus to your private upkeep first. Trim those nose hairs, wax that mustache, get a haircut or back wax. I mean present yourself differently. There are men I come across with enough hair sticking out of their noses to plant a coconut grove and some women with stinky armpits and bags that have been lying on the floors of taxis and buses. All this makes a difference.

Start paying attention to your eating habits, like the way you eat and how you hold your silverware. I hear people complain about their partner’s eating habits more than any other complaint. I know it sounds trivial if you’re really in love, but being in love and being turned on by someone are two different things, and you want both, I assure you.

We are the environment we create. It all starts at home.

What happens outside of us reflects the inside. If we create a spacious and uncluttered home, our mind and heart become spacious and uncluttered. An orderly life has room for a relationship. A messy life has room to meet the needs. You can choose which one you think will satisfy you.

Try an experiment. Clutter up your desk. Make it messy. Let’s see if it’s true that a messy desk is a messy mind.

Sometimes a messy mind is good, it’s creative and playful, but if your workload increases or there’s sudden stress and your mind is scattered, overwhelmed, then you could end up in silly territory. I mean, everything is easy when everything is going your way. That will happen 50% of the time. For the other 50%, you will need some support because there will be challenges, confusion and uncertainty. I think having an organized space prepares you for that challenge. But it also indicates that you are ready.

If your world is in disarray and your life is just one panic after another, you may be waiting for a relationship to sort it out. But that’s not going to happen. Relationships don’t solve problems, they exacerbate them. They grow. So if you’re messy and out of control before a relationship, it’s only going to get worse with one.

So today begins the cycle of improving your environment and creating a loving space for your relationship. Create an empty time where you would hang out if you were with someone. Sit in a bathroom as you would if you were with someone. Clean sheets, nice underwear, a shower before bed. Act like you’re with someone, even if you’re not. That’s called “the power of attraction.”

Can you see the role of nature in creating a great environment in your home office and in your mind? This is most important for discipline, clear mind and body and ask yourself how you can bring more nature into your work and home life.

SPRING CLEANSE – Even in winter, start with your filing system, but you could even go for a colon and cleanse your intestines.

Consider your haircut, your clothes, your computer cover. Consider all the affirmations around you that indicate your appreciation of yourself. Remember, if you value someone else’s dreams, personality, luck, wealth and health more than your own, you are putting them on high and yourself on the ground (in nature nothing is lacking).

You cannot give what you do not have, so appreciate yourself and the shape of your environment, your attention to order and cleanliness. Treat yourself abundantly, so you can appreciate others.

Go find your socks, stockings and underwear giveaway and toss out the weird socks, shitty underwear and holy stockings. Do not leave yourself any choice but to improve what is under your clothes because that is also part of your environment. Don’t save things for camping trips and then reuse them because you forgot to do the laundry.

Look at your shoes, your briefcase, what’s in your briefcase, and what’s hanging from your arm and neck. Look at it with an unsentimental eye. Does this represent where you have been or where you are going? If it’s where you’re going then great, if not then throw it out.

Clear the energy in your space by looking for toxic things around your life. Eliminate things that someone you moved from gave you. Bring into your home and office what resonates with your vision of life instead of what resonates with where you were.

I have worked with many people in disadvantaged environments. The surprising thing is to discover that those people with the most free time, unemployed, with no sense of hope for the future, have the most disgusting and dirty environments. Which do you think comes first? Does low self-esteem create disgusting environments or disgusting environments generate low self-esteem?

Regardless of the answer to that question, what we clearly know is that they are linked. Not only are they linked for those in disadvantaged circumstances, but they are linked for those in extremely privileged circumstances. I have met so many entrepreneurs and business people who on average have hit a plateau in their career, the glass ceiling if you will, but who treat themselves the way they dress and act the way they were in the past. So their behavior and mode of dress reflects the position they are stuck in in the world. This is not about fashion. It’s about recognizing that people judge the book by the cover, but it’s not the people judging us that keep us stuck, it’s ourselves. When we don’t recognize that we are repeating who we were in the past, by limiting our environment to what it looked like in the past, we are unconsciously sabotaging any attempt to scale our life and enhance our vision, inspiration, or purpose.

challenge:

Go to magazines and cut out pictures that show what you want to resonate with. Separate them into the seven areas of life. This is the new you, the new resonance and it adds images from all different sources. You want to appreciate your opportunity. Now, in the next few days, look at your clothes, ask yourself this: “Do these clothes reflect the me I want to become in the future? If not, leave them. Don’t wait for the new to arrive, make space in your life to what’s new, and then get magazines and choose your brand style, choose a cost level… beware of synthetic fabrics that carry charges and opt for wool, cotton and silk when possible.

I have spent many years of my life in spiritual retreats all over the world. When I started going, I thought it was because I was entering a new philosophy or a transformation in my spiritual awareness and that’s why I felt so amazingly clear and open-hearted. But it was not for that. The atmosphere in a spiritual retreat is impeccable, everything has its place, the buildings are cleaned three times a day, nothing is out of place. There is a respect for the environment that includes the clothes you wear and the robes of the monks. Nothing is left to chance they know that the external environment has a massive impact on the internal environment of a human being. Art reflects the mysticism of higher thought. This is the kind of thinking you need to hold for a new relationship to enter your life and thrive.

I came home to the familiar world of a couple experiencing the last three of a relationship breakup. When I walked through the front door of his house, there was a photo of Marlon Brando, in a bog-filled cage being tortured in the jungles of a war-torn Asian nation. Her husband loved the movie, but her wife hated it, and yet this was the centerpiece of her home. A metaphor that he believed that his feelings about this image did not affect them. She feared drawing a line and she accepted this monstrosity to grace the walls of her love nest. That this was just the beginning of what I witnessed in an environment that gave very little support to the relationship.

When you put on your clothes in the morning, put a little love on them. Be glad you have something nice to wear. In fact, it is very important that you are wise to love your clothes and appreciate wearing them. I think it’s better to have one finer wool suit than five synthetics. But it’s not just what people see, choose good quality underwear to wear next to your skin. Consider beauty and elegance in the clothes you wear.

These considerations will cause an increase in your self-esteem. You will become less needy, more confident, and you will attract a different kind of person. Of course, the commitment is not only for courtship, or the honeymoon, it is forever, a process of constant improvement.

People will start commenting on how much better, or younger, you look. You will be invited to more meetings, more often. Your opinion will be heard with more respect.

When you look good, it must be because you have been successful at something for others to reason that because you look good, you are good and that attracts a healthy partner.