You are kind and get along with everyone. But when it comes to your boyfriend’s mom, your charisma has no effect. What could be wrong with you? Whatever it is, you should be grateful for her existence, she’s the reason you got to meet an amazing guy.

So why does he despise you? Well, that’s what you’re here for… to find the answer to your question. It’s about time you figured out how to bridge the gap between you and your “maybe” future mother-in-law.

He is afraid of losing his son.

It is natural for a mother to be afraid of losing her son to a girl she doesn’t fully know. In short, she still doesn’t trust you. If she sees that her relationship with her son is getting serious and she could end up in marriage, the tendency is for her to panic. She has not prepared for a life without her offspring. She will consider you a threat to her happiness.

So this is what you have to do, spend some time with her. Make an effort to get to know each other. Your boyfriend’s mother needs to know that she can depend on you to take care of her most precious child.

She only wants the best.

Put yourself in his place, would you stop loving your son? As a mother, you want to make sure that your son only gets the best girlfriend. This will make treating her a little hard on you. But don’t worry, she may be hostile towards you for now, but that will change if she can show you that you are good for her child. Don’t take her actions personally, this is normal mom behavior. Some are too good at hiding their feelings from her. Stay positive that your relationship would be better. Just give him security, show him how great you are as a person.

She longs to be a part of your life.

When a person falls in love, they tend to focus their attention on the person they adore. When the mother realizes this, she begins to feel that she will soon be eliminated from her son’s life. It is simply an act of jealousy. Her words or harsh actions towards you are just her defensive mechanism. When this happens, she must reassure him that even if she is in a relationship with her son, she will still be a part of her life and his. Make her feel like you’re happy to have a second mom.

Mothers are quite emotional, do her a favor and be the first to understand. Don’t be unreasonable and let him choose between you and his mother. At worst, let your partner do the talking. Stay strong girl.